Couple
There is nothing intensely infuriating in the world of dating and relationship than been with someone who seem heads over heels in love with you today then maybe not— perhaps not.
Nothing kills the soul more than being with people who are indecisive and inconsistent. Today they want to be lawyers, tomorrow they think they couldn’t be anything better than a doctor and just when you are settled on that, they tell you music is the ideal and their passion.
People like that spell chaos and doom from near, they are agents of Satan himself interceding for “antoa” to come and make your life a living hell. My question is why stay with a guy who takes you to the moon today and bring you down to ends that would compete with slums like Nima and Chorkor (let’s pretend you never saw chorkor and Nima). I just cannot think far on this one, if it is the s*x we have worthier, bigger, better and more appreciable joysticks roaming the streets of Accra waiting for an available sweet pot to serve the relishing delicacy to.
Perhaps it is the looks, he is fine eh? Well I don’t blame you, no one wants to associate herself with a grotesquely looking creature who bears a name of a man, we all want the six pacs, basketball height,pink lips kind of guy who would treat us like pure water sachet because he feels he has the looks and the ladies is at his beck and call.
Well I would rather soak gari with salt and painstakingly eat with pride to fill my bloating stomach than to be served with GHANAIAN JOLLOF and salad at gunpoint.
When a guy really likes you, it’s usually pretty obvious. So too when a guy doesn’t like you. The uncertainty usually runs rampant if a guy seems to fall somewhere in between. He disappears for days at a time and then texts you the sweetest message you’ve ever received. He says he really cares about you, but doesn’t really act like it. And while you’re on this topsy-turvy ride, all you want to know is does this guy like me or not?! You see, a guy can be somewhat interested, but not into it. Instead of seeing it for what it is, women make up excuses and justifications to rationalise the bad behaviour away. There are no mixed messages. Either he’s into you or he’s not.
Here are five tell-tale signs that he’s not:
1. He Doesn’t Ask You About Yourself Or Your Life
I am not asking that he makes my life a priority, so much so that he literally knows whatever I engage in but hey I am not curing cancer here but I am human and my routines matter as much. A little care and prying would help melt the ice and create a convivial atmosphere for us. I tell you about what I did and how interesting my day went and there is no gleam of light or flicker in your eyes then I really should begin to worry why we are together and how we are even with each other.
2. He Doesn’t Reveal Things About Himself
On the other side of the coin, if a guy doesn’t tell you anything about himself, it also means he’s not really feeling it. When we share information about ourselves with someone, we are investing in them. We are inviting them into our world because we see the potential for them to become a part of it. When a guy sees no such potential, he’ll offer up the bare minimum. I want you to tell me things you have told no one. Not where you schooled, where you are from and the basics. That is a matter of public record and by logging onto your Facebook account I would get it. He might not necessarily bring out all the skeletons in his closet to play, but he will share information that is more real if he is into you.
3. Waits Too Long To Set Up The Next Date
Do you think Oliver Twist would have asked for more of what he was served with if didn’t taste right and worth returning to? We only take up things that are of the utmost interest to us and nothing or whatsoever can be a hindrance once we are insistent on doing something. So after the first date it takes him forever to set up the next date and you are still impatiently waiting for him to give you that call?. My dear it is time to click on YouTube to watch Tigo’s “drop that yam” advert because you certainly need a monumental wake up call. Find yourself another d*ck to play with and display his picture on Whats App. Life is just too short to leave your “property” dormant.
4. He Gives You Excuses About Why He Didn’t Call
Yes you are definitely right so STOP making excuses for him. The hell he has not been busy, count the number of times you have heard this silly excuse, you miss count huh? ( I thought as much) . If i may ask what has he been busy doing—cracking stones perhaps?, or babysitting his toothless grandmother. He is that busy yet he finds time to Snap, go on Instagram, change Whats app display picture and the likes. My friend he is just not into you, get over it and repeat this after me “ I deserve better and this nonsense MUST STOP!.
5. You Can’t Tell If He’s Interested
When a guy likes you, it’s obvious…as in no secret codes or hidden clues to uncover and no shadiness. If you have a suspicion that he’s not feeling it, it’s probably because he isn’t. He may want to hang out with you, he may want to hook up with you, but that is not the same as being with you. You are not insecure, don’t beat yourself to nothing, it really is not you but him. He won’t make it a mystery, he won’t try to confuse you—it is that simple!.
Inasmuch as I may want to confidently say any guy who exhibits such traits apparently is not interested in you, it is strictly subjective because we are varying humans with diverse approaches to life.
Now get yourself some chilled sobolo and relax, life is just not worth this struggle and hurdles when Akua Donkor will soon be our president.
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